I’m glad to see someone has figured out that personality is a spectrum. I can see myself as extroverted in many situations, yet there are things I really enjoy doing alone (like traveling). As for my most hated traits? Ask people who know me; I would probably be all wrong. And one good thing? I have plenty of things to do today, but none of them with deadlines.
ooh a deadline-free day? what a blessing! For sure there are activities that bring out my introversion and extroversion to different degrees. I find it really interesting you love traveling alone! Is it because you feel like you engage more with locals or fellow travelers when you do?
It’s not always about the locals and since I’m alone it’s never about fellow travelers. I like the idea of seeing everyday life the way it is at wherever I am in the world. It’s more up-front work to travel alone, but I have sole control over my decisions and activities. I want my trip to boil down to these 2 questions: “What do I want to do today” and “Where do I want to have lunch?” If I can get to that point, I’m in great shape.
One good thing is hiking in the sun yesterday. Another good thing is getting your newsletter :-)
About the personality test, I noticed I answered a lot of things with "neutral." In my mind, I thought, "It depends." It is a good reminder. I adapt to my situations. I do like my experience to be normalized. If I am upset, and someone says, "That's normal," I feel better instantly.
My one good thing is that my daughter is healing and nearly pain free after a major surgery! This has been a big source of worry, over thinking and a lot of practical/physical work too, so I’m glad to release it!
My most hated personality trait is my perfectionism. I have a really hard time letting go of things. It's a pain when I'm writing, that's for sure! I tinker and tinker and tinker even though I know it's good enough to publish. That said, the upside is I care about quality, and doing a good job. I don't like to give anything other than my best, which is a good trait to have in life.
One good thing this week: baseball season started! My favorite time of year. Means spring is here, finally.
I started listening to this episode yesterday and it was fascinating! Very interesting about the Myer Briggs too...I am an ENFJ but after the pandemic and becoming a mom, I'm more INFJ now! I like your phrase that personality is a spectrum, not a category! Also, I'd support you consulting on Inside Out 3 if there ever is one!! ;)
I see someone else shared their good thing of the week is their daughter is pain free and actually, that is mine too! It is SO hard when your child is in pain so I'm glad this episode is over too.
Side note: Have you watched Paradise on Hulu yet?? I don't watch a lot of TV but I was hooked on this! =)
I haven't yet listened to your podcast this week - just saved it to listen to today! But my one good thing this week is the fact that Spring is finally Spring-ing where I am and it's getting warmer (and the cherry blossom 🌸 are coming out!) (But that also means allergy season 🤧).
And is there an upside to impatience?! 😄 that's my most hated personality trait (I ❤️ my introversion! It's my superpower lol). But I hate that I'm always looking to the future with my impatience and not content with the now...though I'm working on it!
Hi Caitlin :) I share your passion for Spring AND your aversion to allergies haha. I have been totally dependent on my daily dose of antihistamines!
As you read, I share the impatience trait. Do you think perhaps it's led you to make really good present-day choices, because you're so concerned with the future?
It's great to see you're on Substack, Maya. I was listening to your episode with Kate Bowler again the other day, and I resonated deeply with several of your points.
Similar to your question about the 'upsides of personality,' in my former leadership roles, we discussed how Towering Strengths could be our greatest points of vulnerability or blindspots. We see this when leaders default to react first and question second.
Early in my career, I learnt that my assertive voice needs to be heard last to avoid dominating the discussion and encourage diverse opinions and inclusive debate. But, my most impactful personality learning was when I resigned to help my Mum care for my Dad - to supercharge that active listening with empathy and apply my assertive voice for advocacy - in emergencies or for others. I guess agility was/is my most important personality trait!
This week, as with most things 'caregiving' agility is tested - this week's upside was managing to get a prescription filled before the weekend.
I'm in awe of your choices to help your mom care for your dad <3 they are so lucky to have as their daughter, Victoria! I shared your beautiful reflections in my latest newsletter. Thank you again for sharing them! <3 -M
Thank you so much for sharing my reflections, @Maya!
And thanks for your kind words. It was a 100% head-heart- gut-aligned choice to help Mum care for Dad. For many reasons, I needed to know I had complete ownership of that values-aligned decision to resign. Like several changes in my career, I had to be eyes wide open to avoid regrets. I knew many would question 'why I resigned', some would assume they knew my reasons, perhaps something around culture as I'm Chinese. Now, even as a caregiver, I walk my own 'why' with my little mentoring business and the Carer Mentor publication.
Thanks for revealing insights and connecting the dots in your podcasts. Over these last years they've helped me engage my overactive brain!
I’m glad to see someone has figured out that personality is a spectrum. I can see myself as extroverted in many situations, yet there are things I really enjoy doing alone (like traveling). As for my most hated traits? Ask people who know me; I would probably be all wrong. And one good thing? I have plenty of things to do today, but none of them with deadlines.
ooh a deadline-free day? what a blessing! For sure there are activities that bring out my introversion and extroversion to different degrees. I find it really interesting you love traveling alone! Is it because you feel like you engage more with locals or fellow travelers when you do?
It’s not always about the locals and since I’m alone it’s never about fellow travelers. I like the idea of seeing everyday life the way it is at wherever I am in the world. It’s more up-front work to travel alone, but I have sole control over my decisions and activities. I want my trip to boil down to these 2 questions: “What do I want to do today” and “Where do I want to have lunch?” If I can get to that point, I’m in great shape.
And Maya, if you ever want to do an episode on solo travel, I’d be happy to talk about it with you!
One good thing is hiking in the sun yesterday. Another good thing is getting your newsletter :-)
About the personality test, I noticed I answered a lot of things with "neutral." In my mind, I thought, "It depends." It is a good reminder. I adapt to my situations. I do like my experience to be normalized. If I am upset, and someone says, "That's normal," I feel better instantly.
Me too! it is so validating to hear that in the moment :) hiking in the sun sounds lovely. i hope to do the same soon. thanks for sharing, sandra!
My one good thing is that my daughter is healing and nearly pain free after a major surgery! This has been a big source of worry, over thinking and a lot of practical/physical work too, so I’m glad to release it!
This is my one good thing of the week too Tara 😍 sending love to Cece!!! And lots of tulips.
My most hated personality trait is my perfectionism. I have a really hard time letting go of things. It's a pain when I'm writing, that's for sure! I tinker and tinker and tinker even though I know it's good enough to publish. That said, the upside is I care about quality, and doing a good job. I don't like to give anything other than my best, which is a good trait to have in life.
One good thing this week: baseball season started! My favorite time of year. Means spring is here, finally.
I'm dealing with that right now (the writing perfectionism challenge...) It is SO hard to overcome!
I started listening to this episode yesterday and it was fascinating! Very interesting about the Myer Briggs too...I am an ENFJ but after the pandemic and becoming a mom, I'm more INFJ now! I like your phrase that personality is a spectrum, not a category! Also, I'd support you consulting on Inside Out 3 if there ever is one!! ;)
I see someone else shared their good thing of the week is their daughter is pain free and actually, that is mine too! It is SO hard when your child is in pain so I'm glad this episode is over too.
Side note: Have you watched Paradise on Hulu yet?? I don't watch a lot of TV but I was hooked on this! =)
I'm so glad your child is out of pain, Jasmine! I have not watched Paradise but I'm always looking for good TV recommendations, so thank you :)
I definitely feel more like an INTJ in my heart, not an ENTJ these days lol
I haven't yet listened to your podcast this week - just saved it to listen to today! But my one good thing this week is the fact that Spring is finally Spring-ing where I am and it's getting warmer (and the cherry blossom 🌸 are coming out!) (But that also means allergy season 🤧).
And is there an upside to impatience?! 😄 that's my most hated personality trait (I ❤️ my introversion! It's my superpower lol). But I hate that I'm always looking to the future with my impatience and not content with the now...though I'm working on it!
Hi Caitlin :) I share your passion for Spring AND your aversion to allergies haha. I have been totally dependent on my daily dose of antihistamines!
As you read, I share the impatience trait. Do you think perhaps it's led you to make really good present-day choices, because you're so concerned with the future?
That's a very good question! I'm not sure...but I'd like to hope so! 😄
It's great to see you're on Substack, Maya. I was listening to your episode with Kate Bowler again the other day, and I resonated deeply with several of your points.
Similar to your question about the 'upsides of personality,' in my former leadership roles, we discussed how Towering Strengths could be our greatest points of vulnerability or blindspots. We see this when leaders default to react first and question second.
Early in my career, I learnt that my assertive voice needs to be heard last to avoid dominating the discussion and encourage diverse opinions and inclusive debate. But, my most impactful personality learning was when I resigned to help my Mum care for my Dad - to supercharge that active listening with empathy and apply my assertive voice for advocacy - in emergencies or for others. I guess agility was/is my most important personality trait!
This week, as with most things 'caregiving' agility is tested - this week's upside was managing to get a prescription filled before the weekend.
I'm in awe of your choices to help your mom care for your dad <3 they are so lucky to have as their daughter, Victoria! I shared your beautiful reflections in my latest newsletter. Thank you again for sharing them! <3 -M
Thank you so much for sharing my reflections, @Maya!
And thanks for your kind words. It was a 100% head-heart- gut-aligned choice to help Mum care for Dad. For many reasons, I needed to know I had complete ownership of that values-aligned decision to resign. Like several changes in my career, I had to be eyes wide open to avoid regrets. I knew many would question 'why I resigned', some would assume they knew my reasons, perhaps something around culture as I'm Chinese. Now, even as a caregiver, I walk my own 'why' with my little mentoring business and the Carer Mentor publication.
Thanks for revealing insights and connecting the dots in your podcasts. Over these last years they've helped me engage my overactive brain!