Maya, my husband always says my skin is way too porous, and I need some armor to protect my heart. It serves me well when I am consulting with clients, but in today's world...burnout flickers in and out on an hourly basis. I did my yoga this morning, read your post, and, with Jamil's research in mind, will focus on the other two types of empathy so that, like you, I can stay engaged in the world while caring for myself too!
Commenting for the readers wisdom. Give it time. You guys have only been dating for one month. I actually lean towards the privacy and boundary the guy has put up. He's secure about whats important to him. With time, he may inform you of his why and from there you can also understand how important you are to him.
I think I veer more towards empathic concern. I see someone's struggles and want to help them in some way. That's what motivated me to start Hello, Adversity. But there are definitely times when the pendulum swings the other way and I feel the other two types. Until now, I never realized there were different kinds of empathy. This is a very helpful framework for the future!
Maya, my husband always says my skin is way too porous, and I need some armor to protect my heart. It serves me well when I am consulting with clients, but in today's world...burnout flickers in and out on an hourly basis. I did my yoga this morning, read your post, and, with Jamil's research in mind, will focus on the other two types of empathy so that, like you, I can stay engaged in the world while caring for myself too!
Commenting for the readers wisdom. Give it time. You guys have only been dating for one month. I actually lean towards the privacy and boundary the guy has put up. He's secure about whats important to him. With time, he may inform you of his why and from there you can also understand how important you are to him.
I think I veer more towards empathic concern. I see someone's struggles and want to help them in some way. That's what motivated me to start Hello, Adversity. But there are definitely times when the pendulum swings the other way and I feel the other two types. Until now, I never realized there were different kinds of empathy. This is a very helpful framework for the future!
This is such a timely post, Maya.
I run high on emotional empathy, and I've always found myself shutting down when the state of the world gets too overwhelming.
I never thought about it and just assumed I'm an oversensitive person.
Now I know exactly what I've been feeling and why.
Thank you for sharing Jamil's research, I'll definitely be looking through it like a curious cat!